“When your day is long
And the night
The night is yours alone
When you’re sure you’ve had enough
Of this life
Well hang on
Don’t let yourself go
‘Cause everybody cries
And everybody hurts sometimes”–R.E.M.
Well, BOO-FREAKIN-HOO! It’s time to get your stuff together and turn into a beast that you are capable of turning into, without the help of a significant other! This week, SPark Recommends brings you “Effective ways to get over your Ex“.
We’ve all encountered those situations which make you stare out the window while some gloomy songs are blasting from your earphones, making you very much the part of a music video. The splatter of raindrops on the windowpane and your head rested against it looks really cool… to you. But little do you know that you look stupid on the outside. These situations are caused by heartbreaks, breakups, rejections etc. So for those of you struggling to get over the memories of someone, we’ve got 5 effective ways to get over your ex.
- Date Yourself: This might sound like I’m telling you to go and …, but no, this measure requires for you to walk the extra mile and get to know yourself better. Sometimes a wee-bit of solitude and alone time is a great thing. Go watch your favourite movies, eat at your favourite places, pamper yourself and so on. The essential step that one can take in order to be happy is “Loving one’s own self”. Do this and you’ll realise how independent you are. PS: I’m not just spitting out some nonsense, this methodology is proposed by psychologists (I did my research).
- Distraction: This step basically tells you to get busy. One way to stop thinking about someone is to become preoccupied with a lot of things which gives your mind very less idle time to think of that person in the first place. Find a new hobby or increase the frequency of practice of your existing hobbies, go exercise and get a kick out of being healthy, study hard (okay, I’m getting carried away), learn a new skill, DO SOMETHING! All these things will not only make you shift your focus elsewhere but also increase your productivity. PS- Our college has a lot of fun side activities like DebSoc to join in and if you can’t find anything of your liking, how about starting a new club of your own.
- Be around people who love you: Now don’t be like ” Aww but nobody loves me!”, there are tons of people who love you and find your company worth keeping. You realise that only when you stop, look around and observe. These people who care for you and their outward projection of affection will make you realise that you are not actually alone. “People who love you” could fall into several categories like friends, siblings, parents and pets (Even if it’s a goldfish, believe it or not, but that Orange flipper-flopper loves you to the moon and back).
- Enlist the things that you won’t miss: Yeah, this is a very negative strategy but is effective. All break-ups can be healed, it’s just a matter of time. And that waiting period can be reduced by thinking about all the unpleasant times you had with your former significant other while y’all were together (Go ahead, call me a bad person).Also, get rid of all the things that remind you of your ex while you’re at it. Maybe they liked pineapple pizza or maybe they thought that youtube wasn’t a real job. Think of all such unpleasant qualities and bad memories and soon enough you’ll think “Why did I date this loser”. I like to call this the “Antiseptic”. Since it works like a wound dressing. This might sound like a toxic strategy but it works like a charm!
- Do not Self-destruct: This point hasn’t been emphasised on enough but some negative stimulants (things that rhyme with hugs and winks)that people misuse during sorrowful periods are common. They might seem to give you temporary relief but you might also end up calling/texting or showing up at the doorstep of the person with whom you terminated the relationship. To top it all, overuse of these things will destroy brain-cells and neuron endings (And these guys don’t even regenerate like the others). The moral here is, eat healthily, drink more water, do your homework and be home by 8 (Jk). Or just be a healthy individual. It might seem hard but be strong. Things will always turn out better in the end.
All in all, the logic I’m trying to portray here is; You are responsible for your happiness. Don’t let another specimen of blood and flesh ruin your mood. And I don’t want to say this cliche old dialogue so I’ll just give you the skeleton of the quote;
There are abundant aquatic organisms by the salt-water habitat.
–Pablo Escobar